Ask the Punisher Thursday!

Dear friends,

The time has once again come to reach deep into the mailbag, and ask the Punisher for help. We have some good questions, and some REALLY good questions for you:

1) What does one do when your lady friend doesn't want you to agressively work the middle

The punisher says: Many things go into a wonderful night of sex. Passion, feelings, anticipation, but most of all trust. There is a bond of trust that is created between a man and a woman, or woman and woman or whatever combo works for you. You trust that the person you are with will not hurt you. You trust that the person you are with will make you feel good. You trust the person you are with to do right by you.

so lets elimninate a few possibilities:

1) Are you in a relationship? If you are, trust should be there. the knowledge of what he she likes, and what he/she needs to get "ready" should be there too. Sex without the relationship is more of a give-take situation. When two adults get together for sex, the only goal should be to feel good. You tell her what you like, and she does the same. You take turns and go for it. Shy people are unsatisfied people.

2) Have you hurt her before? You try to "Get creative" with a woman, and she will not soon forget. Scrape an ovary, she will not soon forget, lose her trust, and she will not soon forget. Trust is earned, and not easily given.

3) What makes her "Ready?" What are the circumstances behind it? Is it mutual. or one-sided? After all the possibilities that would make the man guilty, we need to look at {Other options}

4)http://womenshealth.about.com/cs/pelvicpain/a/painfulsexualin.htm

Best advice is to ask her whats the deal with the punishing? Open, honest, and meaningful dialogue is needed. You assure her that you only want to make her feel good. You may be surprised by a quick fix such as change of position to address mismatched genetallia, lubication, or switching up the "batting order."